Have you noticed the drama some folks give even the most mundane things?

Why do people add drama to their lives?

I think the simple answer is boredom.

Getting all worked up about stupid things makes the insipid, boring existence seem to have more meaning. If you can work up a crisis you get attention, sympathy and people sometimes pay attention to you.

That’s a big payoff for people without much going on in their lives.

Some people aren’t happy without a crisis and the more dramatic and the more people involved the better. it helps the drama along if you can a villain or villains and damsels in distress or other helpless victims.

Drama queens usually break down whatever situation they are drama-ing to black and white, good and evil, honorable and dishonorable.

That makes blame and victimhood easy.

The reality of most situations is that somebody goofed something up, thought more about their needs than others or just got lazy. it’s crap we all do.

When you have a dram queen in your life (the term refers to both women and men) you have an intense urge to scream at them. Don’t–that feeds the drama and reinforces the situation.

The only way to effectively address drama is to ignore it, not respond and get on with your day. it’s likely you’ll be labeled an insensitive villain but that’s okay because you won’t ever win with a drama queen.

They are usually experts who have honed their dysfunctional craft for many years.